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4/5/2006I was dx 9/05 had a bi-lateral mastectomy with reconstruction. My family and husband have been wonderful. I could not have made it without all of there love and support. My husband and I have been married almost 36years. He is a very emotional man but has been my rock throughout. Now that my surgery and treatment are over he keeps having thoughts of death. Not just mine but his own as well. I've tried to tell him that this is probably a reaction to all we have been through within the last few months. His reaction is you're probably right but hate having these thoughts. What should I do for him? We have always been able to help each other out emotionally. I'm just not sure how to handle this. I know for me that my cancer has made me look differently at the world and myself. However not in a negative way but a more positive way. I've also been hit smack in the face with my own mortality which most of us don't like to face. Do you think this is what is happening to him? Should I try and talk to him some more or just drop it. Twice now he has brought up thoughts about death dying. Not suicidal but just about our mortality I guess is the best to put it. Should he seek professial help? Any suggestions you can offer will be greatly appreciated.
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4/5/2006talk this out and also seek professional help to discuss it more.. it is natural to feel "in touch" with our mortality when we've faced breast cancer and gotten successfully to the other side. it is a wake up call though for us and also this time for your husband who realizes that life it unpredictable... that doesn't mean dwell on it though. heck, you could be run over by a truck tomorrow. having him think and worry about trucks all night wouldn't be healthy. time to move on with living and both of you celebrate each day. he needs to embrace your awakening...

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