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4/24/2011I don't know if my thinking is right or wrong but I have DCIS and will have surgery in 2 weeks and I find my family seems to think this is a secret or something to be ashamed of, at a recent family gathering no one said anything to me at all even though I suspect a few may have heard about it from a sister-in law that I had told. Am I wrong to feel bad that no one acknowledges this for me, do I keep quiet or just tell about it myself after it's over? I am finding this stressful
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4/24/2011I'm sorry that you have been diagnosed with breast cancer, but are not finding the support you need from family and friends. You should not be ashamed of your, along with the millions of 'sister survivors', have done nothing to cause your cancer, so stay strong!

Sometimes because of outdated thoughts about cancer from the 'olden days', (old of date for today), people will not mention cancer. Other times, we find that family can be afraid and thus not want to acknowledge someone they love or care about has cancer. Regardless of their reasons, it is not your fault or problem, for your own self care, locate a breast cancer support group in your area and try and attend. There are also on-line support groups if you are not able to attend a meeting. Call local hospitals and ask about support groups. Sometimes it's easier to talk with a fellow survivor who is a stranger, then it is to talk to family and friends. Best wishes! and good luck with your upcoming surgery.

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