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8/18/2016Since I was diagnosed with a bilateral bc at the same time at 42, which was a shock for me, I've been seeing a psychologist but it doesn't seem to help too much. I had a DMX and delayed breasts reconstruction with shapped implants.Chemo left me menopausal.I took Tamoxifen initially and then I've been taking Femara for about 3 months till present. It has passed 3 years now and I still think all the time about bc, bc diagnosis, possible recurrences or metastasis, news about new treatments or bc studies. It's like if I cannot get rid of thoughts about bc. I hate looking at myself in the mirror. I don't like my faked breasts. I don't feel them as part of me. They don't look beautiful, they aren't as soft as natural breasts, I always feel implants tight on chest (no capsule contracture) and I hate across the chest scars. I prefer to wear a bra on constantly in order not to see them. It's a constant reminder of what I have gone through and I still go. My body shape has also changed. I have a more pear body shape now, bigger tummy, like a bloated one.I feel fatigued many times. I don't have the energy, the happiness and illusion I used to have before bc diagnosis. I feel like f my life has stopped suddenly, I feel like a 70s lady when I only have 45. I feel sad, moody and with some depression.I don't fancy relating with people or going to social events. I prefer to stay at home or going to more isolated places. When I am with people and I see them happy, talking about their families, children,friends, common things in their lives I compare to them and I feel really sad, because my life has changed so much for worse :( When this feeling would go away? What could be done to change this issue? Do anti-hormonal meds affect the way one feels? Thanks
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8/18/2016hormonal therapy can contribute to clinical depression and you seem to have that diagnosis. you need to get your glass half full instead of half empty. identify 3 things that give you joy and do more of those things. consider getting as second opinion about your reconstruction to see if improvements can be surgically made. and when you look down don't see that your breasts are gone; see that the cancer is gone. you are allowing cancer to hold you captive by allowing it to monopolize your thoughts. don't give it permission to do this. you need to be in charge of your physical and emotional well being.

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